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1、10 Biggest Life RegretsWoulda, Shoulda, Coulda: What Do You Regret?Regrets were sure youve had a few. From losing the one that got away to picking the wrong career path, see how yours stack up against the most common causes of remorse reported in a new survey.When you look back on your life, is ther
2、e anything you wish you could change? Most of us would say yes and were not alone in that sentiment, according to a new Northwestern University study that categorized and ranked Americans biggest life regrets. “Regrets help illuminate mistakes we have made and allow us to learn from them,” says stud
3、y co-author Mike Morrison, a graduate student in the department of psychology at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. “The sting of regret can motivate us to make positive changes in our lives.” Among the more fascinating findings: Twice as many women as men (44 percent compared to 19) re
4、ported a love- or family-related regret; men were slightly more likely than women to have career or education-related remorse.See what else survey participants reported regretting most and how your do-over wish list stacks up.Love Stinks: Romantic RegretsIf you stop and think about the stuff of sad
5、love song lyrics the one who got away, the one who broke your heart, and the one you should never have gotten involved with in the first place you wont be too surprised to learn that 18 percent of people surveyed put aromantic relationshipat the top of their regret list. Want to keep your current or
6、 next relationship from imploding? Learn how to fight fair. “Avoiding conflict can be the kiss of death in relationships, but dont vent anger toward each other either,” says Christine M. Allen, PhD, a psychologist and a life coach in New York City. “Instead, use awareness of hurt and anger to expres
7、s more directly and constructively your needs and concerns.”Family Feuds: Relative RegretsHavent spoken to your sister since you lived under the same roof? The next most common type of regrets werefamily-related, which 16 percent of people reported. Among the more prevalent issues were disagreements
8、 or arguments that got out of hand. “In many cases, people wished that they had resolved family issues sooner, if theyd been resolved at all,” says study co-author Neal Roese, a marketing professor at Northwestern University. It can be difficult to resolve conflicts with people were closest to, espe
9、cially after a lot of time has passed. Consider family therapy if you cant work things out on your own.School of Hard Knocks: Education RegretsWish youd cracked the books more in college or gotten your act together to apply to grad school? The survey found that 13 percent of people had a school-rela
10、ted regret, such asnot studying harder, not pursuing a different major in college, and not staying in school longer. Those with lower levels of education were more likely to have education regrets than those who went on to receive advanced degrees.The Job That Got Away: Career RegretsIf youve ever t
11、urned down ajobonly to be plagued by “what-ifs” months or years later, you can relate to the 12 percent of participants who reported a career-related regret. Many people reported feeling that they chose the wrong path. Interestingly, the more education participants had, the more likely they were to
12、wish they had made a different career choice.Money Changes Everything: Financial RegretsPassed on a stock or investment deal that turned out to be lucrative? Sunk yourlife savingsin a home only to watch its value take a nosedive? If youre grappling with money mistakes mentioned by 10 percent of thos
13、e surveyed try these tips formanaging stress in tough economic times.Motherlode: Parenting RegretsIts not easyraising children, as admitted by the 9 percent of survey participants who regretted something related to their kids. “Several people said they wished that they had spent more time with their
14、 children, and that they should have been more or less strict,” said Roese. Other common parental missteps: being too critical of a childs behavior, not paying closer attention to schoolwork, and failing to recognize the signs of a serious problem, such as drug abuse or an eating disorder.Making You
15、rself Sick: Health RegretsSix percent of people surveyed most regretted something about their health, such as not visiting the doctor more often, eating poorly, and not exercising. “Most of the people with health regrets had experienced significant health issues,” says Morrison. “They felt that such
16、 problems could have been prevented or would have been less serious if theyd taken better care of themselves.” Luckily, its never too late to make positive health changes, and even tiny tweaks like these50 little ways to be healthier can have a huge impact on your overall well-being.From BFFs to Frenemies: Friendship RegretsThose with friendship regrets about 4 percent of those surveyed
