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1、A friend in needisA friend indeed. American friendshipVS Chinese friendship 郝昕 陈雪I.Differences in range and level II.Differences in depth and securement III. The difference on the valuesIV. Difference in Understanding responsibilities between friends In Chinese, friend means help each other, underst
2、and each other. This is a close relationship. In English, friend means: 1.One joined to another in intimacy and mutual benevolence independently of sexual or family love 2.person who acts for one，egas second in 3.acquaintance ，stranger that one comes across or has occa sion to mention again 4.sympat
3、hizer，helper，patronFriend Chinese friendship acquaintance 熟人(from work or neighbor) Friend 朋友 American friendship A casual acquaintance 泛泛之交 Friend 好友 Close friend 密友 Deep friend 深交 Differences in range and level Its quite natural for Americans to move their home to different places. Very few people
4、 live in just one place for a life long time. That is why the Americans are always ready to make new friends. They often drop a visit to their new neighbors. And friendship will be established during chatting, taking an interested sports and small family parties. Difference in depth and securement S
5、teve and Yaser first met in their chemistry class at an American university. Yaser was an international student from China. He wanted to learn more about American culture and hoped that he and Steve would become good friends. At first, Steve seemed very friendly. He always greeted Yaser warmly befor
6、e class. Sometimes he offered to study with Yaser. He even invited Yaser to eat lunch with him. But after the semester was over, Steve seemed more distant. The two former classmates didnt see each other very much at school. One day Yaser decided to call Steve. Steve didnt seem very interested in tal
7、king to him. Yaser was hurt by Steves change of attitude. “Steve said we were friends,” Yaser complained, “and I thought friends were friends forever.” Yaser is a little confused. As Chinese,he doesnt understand the way American view friendship. Americans use the word “friend“ in a very general way.
8、 They may call both casual acquaintances and close companions “friends.” These friendships are based on common interests. When the shared activity ends, the friendship may fade. Now as Steve and Yaser are no longer classmates, their “friendship“ has changed. In some cultures friendship means a stron
9、g life-long bond between two people. In these cultures friendships develop slowly, since they are built to last. American society is one of rapid change. Studies show that one out of five American families moves every year. American friendships develop quickly, and they may change just as quickly. P
10、eople from the United States may at first seem friendly. Americans often chat easily with strangers. But American friendliness is not always an offer of true friendship. After an experience like Yasers people whove been in this country for only a few months may consider Americans to be fickle. Learn
11、ing how Americans view friendship can help non-Americans avoid misunderstandings. It can also help them make friends the American way. The difference on the valuesu The friends of America, they emphasizes respect, help and trust each other. u They are willing to talk about the topic such as a hobby,
12、 holiday, climate, domestic and foreign news, movies, books, sports, etc ,among friends. However, they dont like someone else cares the topic is about personal privacy . uFor example: how much personal income, how to spend money, how much saving the family has, how much the clothes .And other aspect
13、s such as personal health, womens age, family situation, etc. uIn a word, they dont ask their friends privacy and never interfere private affairs in each other.In the United StatesuEconomic accounts clearly among friends. If it comes to labor relations between the two friends, such as you require yo
14、ur friends work for you, both sides are very frank about remuneration issues and never ambiguous. uWhen meal with friends, it is a common thing for them to pay for their own if not invite someone to come forward. They dont mind . uThis reflects the values that the American emphasis on individual ind
15、ependence and privacy and unwilling to bear any obligation and pressure. uThese practices unacceptable to the Chinese people. uChinese people believe that there should be no secret at all (privacy and Chinese traditional culture is contrary among friends, Chinese people like to flaunt “ A gentleman
16、is open and poised; a petty man is unhappy and worried. “（君子坦荡荡，小人常戚戚 ） u If we are friend ,we should not be separated from each other, we should devote ourselves among friends. They think it is worth sacrificing their own interests for their friends.In ChineseChinese people make friends advocating a “loyalty.” u The “loyalty” means: For personal relationsh
