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1、 TED英语演讲：原来这才是拥有爱情的最好时间你认为拥有爱情最好的时间是什么时候?一见钟情，两情相悦，还是双宿双栖?其实我们对爱情到来时的那种惊喜和浪漫存在某种误解。下面是为大家收集关于TED英语演讲：原来这才是拥有爱情的最好时间，欢迎借鉴参考。原来这才是拥有爱情的最好时间I published this article in the New York Times Modern Love column in January of this year. To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This. And the article is about a psychol
2、ogical study designed to create romantic love in the laboratory, and my own experience trying the study myself one night last summer.今年1月份我将这篇文章发表在纽约时报现代爱情专栏。想爱上某人，你要这么做这篇文章讲的是一项心理学研究，如何在实验室创造出浪漫的爱情，我自己在去年一个夏夜也完成了这项试验。So the procedure is fairly simple: two strangers take turns asking each other 36 i
3、ncreasingly personal questions and then they stare into each others eyes without speaking for four minutes.过程很简单：两个陌生人轮流问对方 36个问题，问题越来越私人化，然后四目相对， 一言不发地对视4分钟。So here are a couple of sample questions.我选出了其中几个问题。Number 12: If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what wo
4、uld it be?问题12：如果你明早醒来能获得一项品质或能力，你希望是什么?Number 28: When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?问题28：你上一次当着别人的面哭是什么时候?(上一次)独自哭泣呢?As you can see, they really do get more personal as they go along.如大家所见，这些问题的确越来越私人化。Number 30, I really like this one: Tell your partner what you like ab
5、out them; be very honest this time,saying things you might not say to someone you just met.问题30，我很喜欢这一个：告诉对面的人，你喜欢他(她)什么，要非常诚实，说一些你也许不会对初次见面的人说的话。So when I first came across this study a few years earlier, one detail really stuck out to me, and that was the rumor that two of the participants had got
6、ten married six months later, and theyd invited the entire lab to the ceremony. So I was of course very skeptical about this process of just manufacturing romantic love, but of course I was intrigued. And when I got the chance to try this study myself, with someone I knew but not particularly well,
7、I wasnt expecting to fall in love. But then we did, andAnd I thought it made a good story, so I sent it to the Modern Love column a few months later.因此当我几年前偶然听说这个实验的时候，有一个细节真的打动了我，我听到传言，说有两个参加实验的人在半年后结婚了，他俩邀请了整个实验团队去参加婚礼。当然，我非常怀疑这种完全人造的浪漫爱情，但同时我也很好奇。当我自己也有机会去完成这个实验时和一个我认识但不是很熟的人我完全没想到我们会陷入爱河。但是我们真的陷
8、进去了，而且我认为这是一个精彩的故事，所以几个月后，我将它发给了 现代爱情专栏。Now, this was published in January, and now it is August, so Im guessing that some of you are probably wondering, are we still together? And the reason I think you might be wondering this is because I have been asked this question again and again and again for
9、 the past seven months. And this question is really what I want to talk about today. But lets come back to it.今年一月，文章发表了，现在是八月份，所以我想你们中间肯定有人在想，我俩是不是还在一起?我之所以知道你们想问，是因为过去七个月里，我已经被问了无数次。我今天真的想回答这个问题。但是让我们先说说别的。So the week before the article came out, I was very nervous. I had been working on a book ab
10、out love stories for the past few years, so I had gotten used to writing about my own experiences with romantic love on my blog. But a blog post might get a couple hundred views at the most, and those were usually just my Facebook friends, and I figured my article in the New York Times would probabl
11、y get a few thousand views. And that felt like a lot of attention on a relatively new relationship. But as it turned out, I had no idea.在文章发表前一周，我非常紧张。我一直在写一本关于爱情的书，已经好几年了，我已经习惯于在我的博客上分享我自己的爱情经历。然而博客可能最多只有几百人在看，而且大多数是我脸书上的好友，而我发表到纽约时报上的文章，可能会有几千人看。对一段刚刚确定的关系而言，关注的人有点太多了(不是件好事儿)。但对随之而来的事情，我毫无准备。So th
12、e article was published online on a Friday evening, and by Saturday, this had happened to the traffic on my blog. And by Sunday, both the Today Show and Good Morning America had called. Within a month, the article would receive over 8 million views, and I was, to say the least, underprepared for thi
13、s sort of attention. Its one thing to work up the confidence to write honestly about your experiences with love, but it is another thing to discover that your love life has made international news and to realize that people across the world are genuinely invested in the status of your new relationsh
14、ip.这篇文章上线是在一个周五的晚上，到周六的时候，我的博客访问量(暴涨)成了这个样子。到周日的时候，今日秀和早安美国都给我打电话了。一个月之内，这篇文章 被点击超过800万次，所以，对我而言，我对如此高的关注度毫无准备。鼓起勇气，如实写出自己的恋爱经历是一回事;而发现自己的爱情故事成为国际新闻就是另一回事了。更别说全世界人民都在关注你的新恋情进展了。And when people called or emailed, which they did every day for weeks, they always asked the same question first: are you g
15、uys still together? In fact, as I was preparing this talk, I did a quick search of my email inbox for the phrase Are you still together? and several messages popped up immediately. They were from students and journalists and friendly strangers like this one. I did radio interviews and they asked. I even gave a talk, and one woman shouted up to the stage, Hey Mandy, wheres your boyfriend? And I promptly turned bright red.人们每天给我打电话，发邮件，持续了好几周，他们都会问同样的问题：你们还在一起吗?实际上，在我准备这次演讲时，我在收件箱里搜索句子， 你们还在一起吗? 蹦出来好多结果。问的人有学生，有记者，还有善意的陌生人，就像这一位。我参加电台访谈节目，他们也会问我。甚至有一次我在做演讲，有一位女士大叫着跑上台， 嘿，曼迪，你的男朋友呢? 我立刻就脸红了。
