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1、2011-01-13 21:30 Marriage Is Not the Grave of LoveWith the high rate of divorce, many people hold that marriage is the grave of love. Because ,after a long period of living together ,the couples find their perfect beloved ordinary , and even they fed up with each other .The once the flowers romance
2、fade away . However, others said that marriage is not the grave of love. On the country, they think that marriage is the new beginning of life. As far as I am concerned, I agree with the latterFirst of all, marriage is a way of strengthening love. It is generally accepted that girls lack sense of se
3、curity. We can see it from many of the movies or our daily lives. If a girl really loves a boy, she wants to marry him as soon as possible. Because she is afraid of losing him. From this point view , marriage is the prop of love . What is more, marriage is the extension of love. Love lead people to
4、marriage. Take the story of our Premier Zhou and his wife as an example. Premier Zhou knew Deng Yingchao during the May 4th Movement. They were excellent students in their school. And they acted dramas together. After doing jobs together and then they fell in love with each other. And they married i
5、n 1925. Though Premier Zhou was occupied with government affairs, they often wrote letters to each other. Told each other what happened around? They are model of good couple in . Last but not the least; marriage is a turning point of our life. After marriage, the couple has much responsibilities of
6、the family. They have to work hard, in order to support their family. Not only for themselves, but also for both sides of their patents and their children . They should respect each other; believe each other think more about the other .They face and deal with the tough problems together. I think the
7、se mass of things basically exist in marriage. Due to these things their marriage developed From the foregoing, we can draw a conclusion that marriage is the sublimation result of love, not the grave of love.Marriage is the Grave of Love Marriage is the Grave of Loveis not fresh to the young generat
8、ion and is held as a truth by some youngsters. To some extent, this saying has stated clearly what the relationship between marriage and love is. Marriage is indeed a milestone on the road of the development between the couples. Any alteration of the relationship will change the previous feelings.Wh
9、en two people get married, the reduction of distance would make it possible for both of them to expose previously covered defects. The rediscovery of these defects may contribute to the fading of love.Whats more, after the marriage, the couple is not romantic lovers any more, but realistic husband a
10、nd wife. They have to face butter and bread instead of candle lit dinners, they have to handle financial problems rather than where to take a exciting trip, and they have to encounter arguments instead of sweet whispersMost of the things after marriage are everything but romantic which is closely re
11、lated to love. Obviously, realism kills love!However, the essential reason for the loss of love is the vanishing of love deference. Love deference is the recognition one holds for the others love value. In marital life, it is unnecessary to be polite and everything becomes so common and routine that
12、 it is very easy for them to lose the feeling of adoration and the heavenly affection toward each other. Hence, the love deference is gradually vanishing.If the analysis from the daily lifes angle doesnt sounds convincing enough for there are always exceptions, we should look at the issue from a psy
13、chological perspective.Many people are familiar with the well known saying from Carmon: love is a free bird. Love is definitely free while marriage is restrictive. Love is disengaged and nonscheduled while marriage is the on the opposite. Love shall lose its freedom and vitality in marriage.Everybod
14、y may admit that absence makes the heart grow fonder. People are more likely to discover the shining points of the other and be attracted to each other when they are not as close as spouses. That is to say, when the couple is too close, the attractiveness will decrease.Whats more, love accumulates e
15、nergy while marriage releases energy. Love inspires lovers to store the passion and affection for each other, the energy increases as the love deepens. However, marriage requires energy to maintain and polish, thus passion and affection are consumed day after day until the source is used up.The long
16、er time the two spend together, the more similarities and fewer varieties they hold. Many people shall have the experience that similarities arouse kinship and differences stir adoration. So the adoration is replaced by kinship step by step in the marriage life.Besides this, human nature is that people tend to be fickle in affection. When someone is around you everyday, the freshness is no longer there. Just like a new c
