Friends for LifeJoyce Brothersfriend (noun.)§ 1. A person whom one knows, likes and trusts. 2. A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; comrade. 3. One who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group. 4. An acquaintance.Pre-reading questions:§ 1. How do you define “friends” and “friendship? § 2. How to choose a friend? § 3. What is needed to make friendship grow, blossom and last? § 4. Will a friendship end?What is friendship?§ Friendship is an in-depth relationship. § Friendship is comfortable and relaxed. § Friendship requires meeting the needs of both friends. Friendship Proverbs§ “Books and friends should be few but good.“ § “A friend in need is a friend indeed.“- Latin Proverb § “A hedge between keeps friendship green.“ § “To have a friend, be a friend.”§ “The death of a friend is equivalent to the loss of a limb.“- German Proverb § “Life without a friend is like death without a witness.“- Spanish Proverb § “A cheerful friend is like a sunny day spreading brightness all around.“§ August 6 is International Friendship Day for 2006, time to recognize your friends and their contribution to your life. Friendship helps to bring peace and positivity to the globe - a great reason to celebrate! International Friendship Day Toxic/harmful or helpful?§ Entering into a friendship opens the door for hurt and harm; a harmful friend or a toxic friendship can be one of life's hardest relationship tribulations to forgive and forget. Toxic friends often come back to haunt you for a long time. Harmful friend § The person who makes use of others. § The Betrayer . § A fault finder. § The Promise Breaker. § A Gossip. § The Self-centered Person . § The Competitor .Ways of Maintaining friendship ! § Be a good listener; refrain from offering advice or moralizing. § Respect your friend's point of view. Different personalities can complement each other; it isn't always necessary to see eye to eye. § Never betray a trust. Trust, when violated, can ruin even the best friendship. § Support and praise your friends; ignore their failures and imperfections. § Never resent a friend's success. Instead, strive to admire her achievements. § Flexibility is always important for maintaining friendships. Be understanding when your friend has a last minute change in plans. Learn to accept “I'm sorry to cancel, but we will have another time together Sunday.“ § When paths begin to separate (you are married; he isn't or you have a baby; she is still childless) at forks in the road of life, that is the most important time of all to stay in touch with friends.§ When there is conflict, it must be resolved for friendship to continue. Confrontation is one way to resolve conflict. § A cooling-off period is sometimes necessary when conflict has occurred. § Best friends require one-on-one contact to survive. Telephone calls and getting together are musts for best friends to continue. § Friends are on a seesaw. In a healthy relationship, friends are equals. Not 50/50 every time, of course, but with a true, lasting friendship it always evens out in the end.Friendships Do End!!§ Many people expect that their friends will always be there. They expect friendship to last forever. Yet, friendships end and friends part company everyday. Unfortunately, even the best maintained friendships can end. § Many end because of a change in personality or lifestyle when friends just drift apart and fade away with time. There is a retreat from self-disclosure and seeking out each other's company. Avoidance begins. The friendship slowly loses importance and finally disappears. § The biggest threat to a friendship is change. § Regardless of why, when, or how friendships end, there is always some pain of loss. When nothing can be done to mend the friendship, it is important to grieve and feel the pain fully. Then move on to enhance another friendship or build entirely new friendships. Structural Analysis§ Part 1 ( Para 1-2) IntroductionThe author raises a common problem and supplies a psychological definition. § Part 2( Para 3-4) Discuss friendship within family ties. § Part 3( Para 5-8) It points out the significance of friendship outside kinship ties. § Part 4( Para 9-11) Discuss the friendship between opposite sexes. § Part 5( Para 12-13) How to fix a broken friendship. § Part 6( Para 14-15) The author’s friendship with her grandchildren.Part 1Questions:§ 1. What is the definition of “friend” by psychologists? § 2. How does the author understand “friends”?Language Points§ 1. a term of endearmentIt means “an expression of affection, a word that makes people feel warm and beloved.”2. identify: to find out what something is § He identifies beauty with goodness.他认为美与善是一致的。
His accent is difficult to identify.§ 3. confide: 1) trust ØShe’s nice but I don’t feel I can confide in her. （与in连用）倾诉,信任； 向.透露秘密 2) to tell sth. secrete or personal。