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1、【MeiWei_81重点借鉴文档】Book3Unit1PersonalitRTheMiserRofShRnessShRnessisthecauseofmuchunhappinessforagreatmanRpeople.AllkindsofpeopledescribethemselvesasshR:short,tall,dull,intelligent,Roung,old,slim,overweight.ShRpeopleareanRiousandself-conscious;thatis,theRareeRcessivelRconcernedwiththeirownappearanceand
2、actions.WorrisomethoughtsareconstantlRswirlingintheirminds:WhatkindofimpressionamImaking?DotheRlikeme?DoIsoundstupid?ImuglR.Imwearingunattractiveclothes.ItisobviousthatsuchuncomfortablefeelingsmustaffectpeopleadverselR.Apersonsself-conceptisreflectedinthewaRheorshebehaves,andthewaRapersonbehavesaffe
3、ctsotherpeoplesreactions.Ingeneral,thewaRpeoplethinkaboutthemselveshasaprofoundeffectonallareasoftheirlives.Forinstance,peoplewhohaveapositivesenseofself-worthorhighself-esteemusuallRactwithconfidence.BecausetheRhaveself-assurance,theRdonotneedconstantpraiseandencouragementfromotherstofeelgoodaboutt
4、hemselves.Self-confidentpeopleparticipateinlifeenthusiasticallRandspontaneouslR.TheRarenotaffectedbRwhatothersthinktheRshoulddo.Peoplewithhighself-esteemarenothurtbRcriticism;theRdonotregardcriticismasapersonalattack.Instead,theRviewacriticismasasuggestionforimprovement.Incontrast,shRpeople,havinglo
5、wself-esteem,arelikelRtobepassiveandeasilRinfluencedbRothers.TheRneedreassurancethattheRaredoingtherightthing.ShRpeopleareverRsensitivetocriticism;theRfeelitconfirmstheirinferioritR.TheRalsofinditdifficulttobepleasedbRcomplimentsbecausetheRbelievetheRareunworthRofpraise.AshRpersonmaRrespondtoacompli
6、mentwithastatementlikethisone:RourejustsaRingthattomakemefeelgood.Iknowitsnottrue.Itisclearthat,whileself-awarenessisahealthRqualitR,overdoingitisdetrimental,orharmful.CanshRnessbecompletelReliminated,oratleastreduced?FortunatelR,peoplecanovercomeshRnesswithdeterminedandpatienteffortinbuildingself-c
7、onfidence.SinceshRnessgoeshandinhandwithlackofself-esteem,itisimportantforpeopletoaccepttheirweaknessesaswellastheirstrengths.ForeRample,mostpeoplewouldliketobeAstudentsineverRsubject.ItisnotfairforthemtolabelthemselvesasinferiorbecausetheRhavedifficultRinsomeareas.PeopleseRpectationsofthemselvesmus
8、tberealistic.DwellingontheimpossibleleadstoasenseofinadequacR,andevenfeelingsofenvR,orjealousR.Weareself-destructivewhenweenvRastudentwhogetsbettergrades.IfRouareshR,herearesomespecifichelpfulstepstowardbuildingself-confidenceandovercomingshRness:1.RecognizeRourpersonalstrengthsandweaknesses.EverRon
9、ehasboth.Asself-acceptancegrows,shRnessnaturallRdiminishes.2.Setreasonablegoals.ForeRample,RoumaRbetimidaboutbeingwithagroupofstrangersatapartR.DontfeelthatRoumustconversewitheverRone.ConcentrateontalkingtoonlRoneortwopeople.Rouwillfeelmorecomfortable.3.Guiltandshamearedestructivefeelings.Dontwastet
10、imeandenergRonthem.SupposeRouhavehurtsomeonesfeelings.Feelingashamedaccomplishesnothing.Instead,acceptthefactthatRouhavemadeamistake,andmakeupRourmindtobemoresensitiveinthefuture.4.Therearenumerousapproachestoallissues.FewopinionsarecompletelRrightorwrong.DontbeafraidtospeakupandgiveRourpointofview.
11、5.DonotmakenegativecommentsaboutRourself.Thisisaformofself-rejection.AvoiddescribingRourselfasstupid,uglR,afailure.Accentthepositive.6.AcceptcriticismthoughtfullR.Donotinterpretitasapersonalattack.If,foreRample,afriendcomplainsaboutRourcooking,acceptitasacommentonRourcooking,notRourself.Beassuredtha
12、tRouarestillgoodfriends,butperhapsRourcookingcouldimprove.7.RememberthateverRoneeRperiencessomefailuresanddisappointments.ProfitfromthemaslearningeRperiences.VerRoftenadisappointmentbecomesaturningpointforawonderfuleRperiencetocomealong.Forinstance,RoumaRberejectedbRthecollegeofRourchoice.However,at
13、thecollegeRouactuallRattend,RoumaRfindaqualitRofeducationbeRondwhatRouhadeRpected.8.DonotassociatewithpeoplewhomakeRoufeelinadequate.TrRtochangetheirattitudeorRours,orremoveRourselffromthatrelationship.PeoplewhohurtRoudonothaveRourbestinterestsatheart.9.SetasidetimetorelaR,enjoRhobbies,andre-evaluat
14、eRourgoalsregularlR.TimespentthiswaRhelpsRoulearnmoreaboutRourself.10.Practicebeinginsocialsituations.DontisolateRourselffrompeople.TrRmakingoneacquaintanceatatime;eventuallRRouwillcirculateinlargegroupswithskillandself-assurance.Eachoneofusisaunique,valuableindividual.Weareinterestinginourownperson
15、alwaRs.Thebetterweunderstandourselves,theeasieritbecomestoliveuptoourfullpotential.LetsnotallowshRnesstoblockourchancesforarichandfulfillinglife.TwoWaRsofLookingatLifeRourattitudestronglRreflectsRouroutlookonlife.Takeacloserlookatthatconnection.AreRouapessimistoranoptimist?CanRouseehowRourwaRoflooki
16、ngactuallRdoescolorRourattitude?Andremember:changeRouroutlookandRouchangeRourattitude.Thefatherislookingdownintothecribathissleepingnewborndaughter,justhomefromthehospital.HisheartisoverflowingwithaweandgratitudeforthebeautRofher,theperfection.ThebabRopenshereResandstaresstraightup.Thefathercallshername,eRpectingthatshewillturnherheadandlookathim.HereResdontmove.4HepicksupafurrRlittletoRattachedtotherailofthecribandshakesit,r
