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1、不问收获问耕耘你和成功人士的距离_你可是成功人士哪里跟你比汇报人：xxx.你和成功人士的距离_你可是成功人士哪里跟你比 2019-07-28 09:36:52 你和成功人士的距离，就是说：“不”！Why the most successful people just say no凯拉韦：说是和说不的主要区别在于一个容易说出来，另一个难以启齿。任何一个老傻瓜都可以说是，而说不需要性格、承诺和勇气。Today I did not get up at 6:30am to flog over to a peakfast meeting in Knightspidge. Tomorrow I am no
2、t going to have a sandwich lunch to discuss a project I am only vaguely involved in.On Thursday I am not going to a summer networking party. Neither am I writing an article for a website that neglects to pay contributors, nor am I giving an interview to an Australian radio station. I might have been
3、 doing all of these things, but I have said no to them.As well as making me considerably happier, this naysaying makes me bang on trend. No is the new yes. It is the most fashionable answer for successful people.Ten years ago it was the other way around. There was a uniformly positive selection of b
4、ooks on Amazon that were all rabidly pro-yes. Now they have been pushed aside by The Life-changing Power of No!and How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty. There is even a How to Say Nocolouring book for adults, as well as books of more niche interest, like Say No to Arthritis.Yet last week “no” reache
5、d cult status. In a blog post for the Harvard Business Review, a management coach suggested that it is not enough simply to say no, we must start celepating whenever we do so.No is thus granted the same giddy status as failure, which everyone has been doggedly celepating for a decade at least. The M
6、useum of Failure was opened last week in Sweden; give it a year or two and the Museum of No is bound to follow.Yet to celepate no is not so silly. Since reading the blog, I have taken to starting each day lying in bed giving silent thanks for the things I have successfully refused to do. I do not ha
7、ve to write that article today (hooray), nor have coffee with that person (phew), nor go to that lunch.With each thing I mentally tick off, the better the day seems. I skip out of bed eager to do the things that slipped through my net of negativity.Podcast: Lucy Kellaway on work skills for the 21st
8、centuryJoin Lucy and experts for a panel discussion in front of a studio audienceYou could say this is all very selfish. Every time we say no we disappoint the person asking. And every job we turn down creates something for some other poor sucker to have to do instead.Yet there is another way of loo
9、king at it fans of no are repanding it as the altruistic choice.On the Entrepreneur website is a blog post that argues saying no is good, as it creates space for junior people to step up. And declining things at work allows you to spend more time at home tending to your family.I can think of somethi
10、ng even better about it. If enough people were to say no to pointless things often enough it would lead to a more efficient allocation of resources. If we all refused boring meetings and events, eventually the penny would drop and people would stop arranging them.Despite being a great fan of no at w
11、ork, even I admit that sometimes it is the wrong answer. The great challenge is therefore to spot when to stop saying no and start saying yes.Why the most successful people just say noThe main difference between yes and no is that one is easy and the other hard, says Lucy KellawayThe HBR recommends
12、ranking all opportunities from one to 10, but my system is simpler. I say yes to things I a) have to do; b) want to do or c) ought to do. Though sometimes I ignore c) if I can talk myself out of whatever it is without feeling a total heel.The trouble with this system is that often it is not clear wh
13、ether you really have to do something or even if you want to do it. But in that case there is a rule: if in doubt, say no. At the margin, less work is always better than more.The main difference between yes and no is that one is easy and the other hard.Yes can be said by any old fool, while no requi
14、res character, commitment and courage. Saying no gets easier as you get older: I have gone from being rubbish at it to being a master, and am still improving.I have learnt the importance of saying no quickly. If you procrastinate you are already on the back foot and may be tricked into saying yes by
15、 mistake.I have also learnt never to give reasons, as they can be challenged, resulting in capitulation. In writing this I have learnt a third thing: never say you cannot do something because you are too busy.No one will be impressed: being too busy simply proves you are not good enough at saying no.书山有路勤为径，学海无涯苦作舟！3
